Why Some People Will NEVER Change

Why Some People Will NEVER Change

I got a question today,

people don’t change?

One reason, one reason only, they don’t want to,

bad enough. 

It reminds me of a story about a man.

The man walks into his best friend house,

He notice a dog in the corner of the hallway, whimpering.

Why is your dog whimpering? He ask.

Oh, he’s just lying on a nail.

Well, why doesn’t he get up?

Oh, it’s doesn’t hurt him bad enough yet.

We all know someone like the dog.

They aren’t hurting bad enough 

To change.

We try to help them but to be honest,

Sometimes they need to go through that.

They would rather reposition themselves on the nail,

Than get up.

In other words, most people want relief 

not a cure.

And that is why most people 

won’t change.

Relationship

Relationship

Love yourself before you get into a Relationship.

What is the most important thing

to remember in a relationship?

Is it Honesty? Compassion? Trust?

No, It's YOU.

See, You have to figure it out

Who YOU are before entering a relationship.

You have live with yourself for 20, 30, 40 plus years.

All that time you still yet to figure out

How to be Patient, Happy, Alone.

How do you create an environment that another

human being can be happy in?

You can't do it, no matter how hard you try.

You will blaming your partner for

everything that goes wrong.

Instead of realizing that you feeling

of Happiness and Sadness happen to you. Because of You.

Because of how you interpret things, Its all YOU.

You have to love yourself 

before you love someone else.

I don't know about you,

but my relationship never worked out.

When i put too much force energy into 

trying to please the other person.

Being someone i wasn't i lost to who i was.

I was focus on being compatible to the other person.

instead of being the best me that i could be.

The funny thing is.

When two people are working on 

being the best version of themselves.

Cultivating their own happiness and compassion.

That's when the most compatible.

That's when the magical long term relationship happens.

So marry yourself before marrying someone else.

Technology

Technology

Average people spends 4 years 

looking down at their cellphone

It is ironic how these 

touch-screen make us....lose touch.

Technology has made us,

become more selfish and separated.

Social media or Anti Social media?

We sitting at home in front of computer

measuring self-worth by

numbers of followers and likes.

Ignored those who actually love us.

Cuz i asked a friend the other day,

and say "let's meet up face to face."

He said "alright, what time you wanna Skype?"

You can't get a modern day job 

without being able to type, or use a computer.

I imagine a world where we smile

when we are low batteries

Cuz that will mean we are one bar closer to 

Humanity.

You need not delete your social networks 

or destroy your cell phones, 

the message is simple,

 be balanced, be mindful, be present, be here.

Social Media

Social Media

Social media will F*** You Up

if you're not careful.

I know, because I have nearly got depress
by just scrolling down my page,
and compare to people i see.
Oh, they got more followers, more likes.
Oh, they are travelling the world, going beach.
and I'm at home doing nothing.
Seems like they have a better car,
better job, better house than me.

This comparing habit will drive us crazy,
and if want to live a happy peaceful life,
then we must let go the comparing mindset.
Because the comparison are false,
you're comparing yourself to an image.
Because that's their best presentation.
That sweet couple they have a lot of problem
and they ain't showing.
That girl in the magazine,
don't look like the girl in the magazine.
Because it's just special effect and filters going on.

Don't compare your behind the scene to a highlight.
As far as you go be patient to your life,
you don't need to compare people life to yours.
Don't fall into the trap where it change your mood.
Just calmly watch it,
and it slowly dissolve into thin air.

Everybody Dies

Everybody Dies

It is not death most people are afraid of.

It is when come to an end of life,

and realize that they didn't truly lives.

My grandfather once told me that,

Don't live a life that regret things 

you didn't do, 

The risk that you didn't take.

The dream that you didn't pursue.

And the last word is "If only I had.."

It's time to wake up

life is not just work and 

wait for the weekend

and pay rent.

I don't know much

but i know that every people 

has a gift.

Which we all call it Life.

And don't make yourself into a

"kinda" person

Kinda is lethal

You kinda want to create a change

You kinda wanted to get straight A

You kinda want to get in shape.

It will make you "kinda" get the result.

You must want the result with your whole heart.

You will struggle, you will fall many times.

JUST remember there is no such thing

as a SMOOTH mountain.

Because PAIN is life.

But YOU can choose what type of pain,

pain to success,

or pain to being haunted by regrets.

Confident

Confident

Confident is having a feeling or 

belief that you can do something well 

or succeed at something.

 Been thinking through this lately.

And I realized that I am lack of confident.

Back when I was young,

I use to play a lot of FPS game. I can just spend whole day 

just playing game.

Then I started to join small tournament.

I play with my team through internet.

Which I don't even know what they look like.

Our team just got third.

But after a few days later we receive a message.

Asking us whether we want to form as a team together.

At first we thought that it was just

Some fake message.

But we checked it and it was real.

We are really happy and excited about it.

But I began to become nervous.

I started to think that, 

Am I really as good as I think I am?

Am I really as good as they think I am?

What if I fail?

What if I mess up?

Am I ready for this?

In the end I rejected the offer.

The story ends there.

What Happen?

Lack of confident and fear.

Because of my lack of confident and 

make me lose the opportunity.

And I learnt a lesson that time.

Do not let the fear controls you.

Because some opportunity you only get one chance.

One chance and that’s it.

Racism

Racism

Racism is a discrimination towards other racial.

And why do we hate other races?

We hate because we were taught that way.

We were taught that to stereotype the other racial,

Indian are Drunkards.

Chinese are Arrogant. 

Malay are Lazy.

We taught that way so that,

We think that we are superior than the other race

and its time to

GET OVER IT!

Get out of the ignorant to think that you better or stronger

than the other races.

Because of the color of the skin.

Color has nothing to with Intelligent or Wisdom.

Forgive me that I didn't see the logic

or the pride in defining myself or judging other

just by the color of the skin

What we truly are

is found INSIDE.

Haters

Haters

Haters is not a problem or reaction.

If you hating on somebody, giving them the 

negative energy, and he didn't get insulted,

and end up you feel the pain.

Haters aren't going away, they are everywhere.

You can go online search videos about cute cats,

and there is like thousands of dislikes.

Only haters does that.

All we have to do is to stop reacting to them, 

and protect ourselves with compassion.

Nobody was psychologically happy could ever hate on somebody.

Even I hated on somebody too,

we all have our moments of jealousy, envy, low self-esteem

and taking insecurity on somebody else.

It's normal, we are human.

And it's not easy to ignore their hates,

and you wanted to debate and be defensive,

but it will actually corrupt you become like them.

Haters gonna hate.

Just be compassion for you did and strive for your goal.

Depression

Depression

Depression, many of us thinks that we are depressed

But we are not. 

I was once depressed on love.

I was so depressed that I feel like I have no life anymore.

That was when I was naive and close minded.

There is many ways to overcome the depression.

Well, imagine You are the sky, 

Depression, Frustration etc are the clouds.

They come and they go.

But You are always here because you are the sky

Some stay awhile, but in the end they will go.

Big problems comes, when you started to identify as depression.

Never identify with things that which comes and goes.

For me, when problems come I observe it.

Allow it to come and go without resistant.

Because I know that it was not me.

It is just a problem that everyone will face.

Problem comes and goes,

We need to learn how to overcome and face it.

In order achieve our goals.

Commitment

COMMITMENT

Commitment is one of the important traits to achieve your goal.

Because there is time that 

when I was studying what I am "Interested",

I found out that my efforts are weak and unfocused.

When this happens, I will try to keep myself motivated

"I want to be success!"

but my actions didn’t reflect this belief.

So I began to think that, what if?

When it comes to getting paid to do what I love, after I am graduated, am I interested or committed?

That's where I found that interest and commitment are very different

Interest works an hour a day on the business; 

Commitment works whenever time permits.

I started questioning myself.

Why am I holding back? What is stopping me from living the life I’ve imagined for myself?

And I found out that the reason for holding me back is

“I would take action and get started, but I just don’t know enough yet. I’m just not ready.”

And yet there is internet right in front of me

and I didn't use it wisely.

There is much more to learn.

Well, it's time to 

Get my mindset right and refine my goals

To strive for my dream.

The Past

THE PAST

The past is always an emotional thing to me.

Because I always hated my past.

The bad choices that I chose.

The mistakes I made.

How childish and naive I was.

Why can't I be more mature like the others?

I always hated that, I didn't treasure the people who 

loved and cared for me in the past.

Now I lost it.

There is nothing I can do now. But to move on.

Well, a past is a past, you can't turn back time to change it.

It's a journey to make us grow along the time

and make us who we are now.

All we need to do is move on, and learn from the mistakes

and don't do it again in the future.

Dream

Dream

I have a dream that one day I will become a

concept artist.

I always admire and love other concept artist make

tons of concept weapon or costume for the

character.

This is the first time I ever draw a concept art.

It's not really that great and nice.

But there are times, that I sit down and question myself

Am I really an artist?

Can I really become an artist?

I am not really good or talented at it.

Artist doesn't get much income. How am I gonna repay my family?

Should I really continue study Art?

Well, in our life there is always up and down.

I might fail sometimes, but it's a journey that I chose.

I love what I do

All I need is passion and contribution.

And it's just the beginning.

Dream can't come true.

If you just sit there and wait.

Get up and strive for it.

God

GOD

Many friends ask me that do you believe in God?

And I will always say that i'm neutral.

Well, it's because that nobody can prove that God is truly exist.

I mean I do believe in those like Karma and stuff.

But sometimes I always think that 

Why God help those wealthy people and

didn't help those who really need it.

People will say that you need to do it yourself

not just pray god all the time for help

Well, there are probably people out there in an island

and thinks that the airplanes flying across their island

is a God

For me, God is just like a myth to make us people

to do good deeds in order to go to heaven.

So that people will not do bad deeds.

Friendship

Friendship

Does having tons of friends makes you happy?

Does staying together in a same dorm, makes your friendship stronger?

Does it have to be when your friends called you for a drink, and you need to be there only known as "friends"?

Well, true friends understands why you can't make it and won't blame you for it. We don't need to have conversation whole day whole night to makes our friendship stronger. 

All we need is just one day of having fun together and we will be happy.

True friends will correct you to do the right thing.

But does it means we only be friends with those who are close to us or know us?

Well, for me I would be friends with anyone if i can.

Creating Friendship is way better than creating Enemies.

Treasure Your Friendships.

Don't regret it until you lose your friendship.